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An Empty Nest is for the Birds
An Empty Nest is For the Birds by S. M. Calhoun It was just a simple child’s book, its total vocabulary consisting of only five words. Yet, as I listened to a student read it on this particular day, I felt like weeping! What was wrong with me? ...
A Tool for Early Breast Cancer Screening
Who isn’t familiar with the expression, “early detection is the best prevention?” We hear this term throughout the year and most everyone is familiar with this “catch phrase” as it relates to breast cancer. Obviously, a woman’s chance for...
A Tick In Time
Clocks have been around for a very long time. They vary from the simpliest in design to one that is ornate and multi-functional. Colors abound and features are hand-set, digital, computerized and little bit of everything in between. Whether you...
Was that a letter from Santa?
Christmas was a magical time for us as children, with the thoughts of Santa Claus coming to visit on every special Christmas Eve night.
Thinking back, I remember waiting to visit Santa in the line up with all the other children. We eagerly...
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Just a Little Willingness to Love...
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Written By:
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
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What is love? A ticklish sensation around the heart that can't be
scratched? Something I earn when I do things right? Something I
give to get something back? My definition is that love is a
willingness to choose to see and respond to the best in another
person, even when they are not experiencing or expressing it
themselves at the moment. This gives you the opportunity to be
loving, no matter what the other is doing! It also requires that
you decide to give up petty (and not-so-petty) judgments of
others and replace that with the willingness to see them in their
best light. Quite a tall order!
Now, how do you recognize love in your life? Do you have a
well-defined way of recognizing love coming to you? Is it "it has
to look, sound, feel like this or it isn't love"? Or, are you
open to seeing, hearing and feeling love in many forms? You can
miss a lot of love in your life if you have a narrow, restricting
perception of which form is acceptable to you.
How do you express love in your life? Familiar quotes worthy of
bringing into application are "Work is love made visible."
"Works, not words, are proof of love." and "Service is nothing
more than love in work clothes." Consider your expressions of
love. Do your words match your actions? Do you say you'll do
something for another but "forget" regularly? Are you willing to
match your walk with your talk? It seems to me to be a waste of
energy to spend much valuable time talking about what I'm going
to do, or what I think I should do, when I could be using that
time for doing it!
Love also looks a lot like time. When we say we love someone, - continued below ...
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or,
for that matter, that we love to do something, the proof is often
in the time we spend with the person or the time we spend doing
the activity, isn't it? When I was seeing many couples in my
counselling practice, I would often hear the pain as one partner
expressed their loneliness, saying, "You do not spend time with
me." The demonstration of love means spending time with those you
say you love, doesn't it? We've all seen or heard stories about
parents who were too busy and missed their children's childhoods.
Regretting it later is not nearly as effective as doing it now!
Remember, too, that you cannot give a gift you do not have. Be
loving to yourself. Spend time with yourself. Know what you enjoy
and do it! It is also important to have good communication skills
so that you can communicate to others clearly when you think they
are being unloving to you. I think it is unloving to allow others
to be unloving to you. We are responsible for teaching people how
to treat us! If you do not say anything, you are telling them it
is all right with you.
IMPORTANT: If love makes the world go round, we'd better do our
bit because the world is turning at 2,000 miles per hour, and
we'd get quite a jolt if it stopped.
About the Author
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, Motivational Keynote
Speaker, Corporate TeamBuilder and Executive Coach from San
Diego, CA, is the creator of The Consociate Way™: Promoting
Performance & Peace in Your Workplace.
Call Rhoberta at 1.877.728.6464 or email at
RS@SpeakingAboutWork.com.
Visit: http://www.SpeakingAboutWork.com for further information
and free ezines.
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Chicken Adobo
This particular recipe is Phillipian. Here are the ingredients you need to make a meal for 2: 4-6 Chicken Thighs 3 cups of Vinegar 3 cups of Soy Sauce Pinch of Garlic (Optional) Rice (I use Uncle Ben's Instant Rice) Warning: You can get very sick...
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