Selecting the right dress and accessories for her First Communion is an exciting time. While it is definitely not the most important part of the day (the spiritual rite is by far more important), what she wears will help her feel just that much more special and create lovely memories for a life time.

What are the trends today and what should you consider when shopping? First, be sure to talk with your Catechism Director or representative from your Parish on their requirements. Some have none but others are very specific. You will want to follow their guidelines to the letter and you will want her to feel that she fits in with her peers.

What are some of the questions to ask?

1. What length dress is most common - or what do they require? Most prefer not to see 'shortie' dresses any more and opt for tea length or formal length. Some prefer all dresses to be one or the other. Be sure to ask.

2. Headpieces - do they all wear veils?

3. Are sleeves required? Some will say 'yes' while sleeveless dresses are perfectly acceptable in other locations.

4. Accessories - are gloves allowed? Sweaters, jackets, capes?

Then you have to ask yourself and others - what is the style trend in your area? In all cases, modesty is the key factor. Many nuns have explained that rigid rules have developed simply because common sense and good taste had to be dictated. Sad but true - we've seen it too.

The Dress
Traditionally and in many cultures yet today, the "little bride" look is desirable. This involves a full satin gown with plenty of trimming and a frothy veil on her head.

But the trend is away from this in many modern parishes. Today we're seeing a desire for clean lines and simple styles more in tea length than formal.

Sleeveless is definitely popular in many locations - again, ask before you assume that it is acceptable.

Light touches of beading are still very popular but it is not as standard as it once was.

Accessories
Gloves are a classic accessory often desired but frequently discouraged for wearing during the ceremony.

While sweaters or jackets are usually fine, capes are often discouraged. The whole reasoning behind this is simple - they cause children to fidget. They don't need to be distracted from the purpose of the day with accessories that cause them to fuss.

Simplicity makes the day go better.

If you have your heart set on accessories remember that she can wear anything at all before and after the ceremony and at your family gathering afterward!

Preserving the Memory
You will, of course, want gorgeous photographs of her day. A good photographer's portrait is something you will also cherish forever. Consider having the portrait scheduled before her Communion day - dresses and headpieces tend become worn and often stained and you do not want to risk not getting the perfect shot.

Another thing to consider is something you will cherish beyond any other - a custom painted portrait.

Unlike portraits of the past requiring grueling hours of sitting before an artist with an easel, today's modern portrait artists can paint from your photograph with amazing results!

And you will, of course, want to preserve her dress and headpiece. This is best done by professionals. Kits are available to preserve a girl's Communion attire just like a bridal gown (and cost quite a bit less, too).

We wish you every happiness on your blessed event!
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