Here we will come to know who are the most responsible person to make your child an addicted person & failure.
In general we see kids who are addicted of tobacco , drinking, smoking, etc. addictions are the symbols of unhealthy personality.
Kids adopts addictions because of a] Stress, B] Depression. C] repression. (form anything) When a kid feels one of these or similar of these he wants to come out form the situations. In many countries – drinking and smoking are the accepted norms of getting happiness.
At first when a kid smoke or drink - he does not get any pleasant experience / relief / happiness. But peoples around him makes him feel so. Over a period of a time he develops & adopts the habit / addiction.
In a survey it is found that kids gives similar expressions on the question “why you smoke / drink etc.?” or ”what and how you feel after / while drinking or smoking ? “
These expressions are a] I get mental peace, b] I feel more confident and aggressive, c] it is good for my tummy & helps in latrine, d] It is full of pride & sign of growing man e] it removes the loneliness, anger, depression. But this is all away form fact & just a self-deceit.
In the parental aspect when the parents came to know about their kid’s addictions / bad habits ; the (99.9% normal reaction ) parents says “ (1) He has bad Company”, “(2)He has bad friends” etc. But in reality it fiction and fact is different. Yes, Fact is different.
Form the beginning / since your child born he has only company and that is you, The parent. He / she got your company for very first day.
Not getting the good company form parents is the main reason to raise new problems in the life of a kid.
Confidence and every thing which requires in social life : he gets it form the home (your company).
But what Exactly happens by which they get mentally imbalanced & cause addiction / bad habits ? well, the reasons are.
- being our self (parents) indiscipline & teaching / imposing discipline to kids
- Pressure to follow the rules, and discouragement.
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