First of all, Criticalness breaks up more relationships, than anything else. And that criticalness is usually over the children or money!
Criticalness can be seen in eyes that slant down.
They notice anything that is out of line and can spot problems and the flaws. Yes, they are naggers, faultfinders. They cause fear in other people. They make people afraid of them.
Your son asks you a question. “What does agile mean?” And right away you tell him his shoe is untied, or his shirt is dirty, or his hair is not combed, and has dandruf. You notice things that are wrong.
Now you have a choice on how you responded to your son. That is the negative choice.
The positive use of being critical is that you see opportunities and advantages in situations. You know what needs to be done. Instead of critizing your son, spouse, or anyone; only use your criticalness when you are paid for it. Keep your criticalness to yourself, until needed. State the criticism as a statement or suggestion.
“Son, agile means flexible. Thanks for asking. And don’t forget to tie your shoe, comb hair.”
The critical spouse should resist trying to remake partner. Focus on the good in everything first even with children. The critical child must be made to understand the unsolicited criticism will turn people off.
What should you do when you are around someone who is critical?
1 - Get there advice when you need it. They will be glad to give it.
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